Monday, February 2, 2009

Let's talk about Sex.

Another day (day 2) of blood pressure issues... tomorrow I will be going to the doctor.

My mom decided to be "straight up" with me, and frankly, she scared me. HBP can mess up your head and your liver. Yikes!


I didn't realize until today how little I blog about what I think about most days. The last post has offended some people, and while I probably should have given you the setup as to WHY I posted it, it needed to be posted. End of story.

But seriously, can we talk about integrity? Amy Beth has been talking about LOVE and some of the details. She even mentioned that she and Cousin Cate can't say the word SEX because her mama might be watching. I get that... but I also grew up in a home where my Mom knew that if she didn't tell me about sex, then the world would.

Christians get so freaked out talking about sex. Don't get me wrong, I don't, and I mean DON'T want to hear about your sex life, but at 30, I know too many people who are afraid of the word.

FEAR makes it bad. FEAR is what causes so many Christians to compromise their morals. FEAR brings shame.

God made sex. Mind you, I've yet to experience what God really meant. If you'd asked me ten years ago if I was a virgin, I might have lied to you out of shame. But I am, and I'm totally okay with it. I don't need a big 'ole V on my shirt, and if you aren't, I'm not going to brandish you with a scarlet letter. But come on y'all? We MUST stop being afraid to talk about it.

God made it to be a beautiful, wonderful thing. It's the 'not talking about it' that has made it taboo and wrong. Recently I shared with my girls' group about good girls that I went to college with who were so freaked about it, they waited MONTHS to consummate their marriages! That's craziness!

And really my post comes from a point of compromise. Girls who give in, and give up to salvage relationships. I am not Snow White. I have gone farther than I ever dreamed. I knew when to stop, and knew what point was beyond stopping. And I sadly, stopped in between.

But when did it become NOT Okay to hold each other accountable? You know you wouldn't do "those things" if your Mom or Dad were on the end of the couch. You would have run away like you were on fire.

And while I'm rambling... stop using the "victim" excuse. SAY NO. Phone a friend. Be truthful with an accountability partner, even if it's embarrassing.

Find your value in The Word. Find your value in The Lord.


Mimi said...

Beautifully written, your honesty always moves me.

To the folks who read your blog and complain I'm sending a big raspberry!

Warrior Priestess said...

Really good post. Have you ever read the book by Lauren Winner "Real Sex?" It's a good book. I think teenagers need to read it. While we're on the topic I think teenagers need to be present when babies are being born. I'm talking the 30 hour screaming, sweating, bloody, placenta hitting the floor type deliveries.

AFamousStatue said...

Oh, GOOD one. So true!